The war on Sexuality 

There is a war on sexuality

This comment is not aimed at any individual, it is my comment on what is actually happening through language. I’m also aware that as a 45yo white heterosexual male I have lived a life of privilege and that I am yelling into an echo chamber. I don’t expect any responses or reactions.

I’ve watched the queering of the dominant culture through identity politics for long enough to not make my stance at this point in time very clear to anyone who I come into contact with. Know that I will respect any individual who wishes to have an honest discussion on this topic.

The following I have pretty much lifted verbatim from Magdalen Burns because it spoke to me so clearly:

“Sexuality is not a ‘preference.’

I can understand why someone stating that they only like penises or vaginas or both might negatively effect trans people. Nobody likes to be rejected when making sexual advances. But part of an individual’s responsibility is to learn to cope with that without expressing hostility towards those who sexually rejected them.

It’s called being an adult.

Sexual orientation is not an implicit bias. Nor is it a preference. To imply that it is, is to suggest it is a kink.”

 Reducing my sexuality as a while heterosexual man is of zero consequence, but when it happens to women (bisexual, homosexual or heterosexual) it erases their experience as women entirely.

For further clarification of this statement, my definitions are:

Sexuality = belong to the group of people that have sexual attraction for male/female/intersex/both genatalia

Female = human born with a vagina but not born with a penis
Woman = adult female born with a vagina but not with a penis

Male = human born with a penis
Man = adult male with a penis

Intersex = person born with both. In most cultures a decision is still made about gender at birth based on genital appearance. But the decision for that child to not be intersex is imposed at birth in most cases in this dominant culture.

Gender = system of power implemented through the patriarchal violation imperative (men on top, women on bottom). It is a real, tangible sorting system that we know occurs at every birth, the ‘rule’ within our dominant culture which divides us at birth based on the appearance of genitals (except in 1/2000 cases: this is the exception to the rule)

What is happening through the language of ‘identity politics’ is that if you claim your sexuality, you are labelled transphobic (usually transactivists whom are not always intersex people) and bigoted to those who wish to ‘identify’ their way into a material biological reality.

Being called bigoted when you are a white male means nothing. But when I see those labels thrown at the real victims of patriarchy (women) and laws are being rewritten to protect transgendered people whilst simultaneously ignoring women, then I know I need to be clear in my language use.

The very least I can do with my male privilege is use the language I speak to show solidarity for women.

Common statements in the language Ignoramus translated

“Get over it”

= Your personal and collective grief annoys me/makes me feel uncomfortable.
“Stop blaming the current generation for the past”

= I’m too stupid to understand that the past transitions into the present.
“Stop complaining and whining about stuff that happened 200 years ago”

= I am so apathetic towards Aboriginal affairs that I don’t even know human rights abuses are still occurring.
“Be thankful it was the British who invaded and not the Japanese/Spanish/Indonesians etc. etc.”

= Surely there is some race of people capable of treating humans as abhorrently as my ancestors?
“Be thankful for all the technology and services you have today”

= Your land, families, identities, traditional culture, spirituality, freedom and more has been damaged and disrupted beyond repair- but the cars, TV and iPhones make up for that.
“This is just history, its happened all over the world”

= My white privilege makes it impossible for me to relate to the ongoing trauma inflicted by recent history. I don’t get it so I will just dismiss it.

“All this time and all you invented was a stick!”

= I know deep down that the Aboriginal way of life was superior and better for them, but I will discredit their intelligence by making insulting comparisons to my own greedy culture.

“You bring it on yourselves”
= I refuse to accept that the inter generational trauma and complex issues in Aboriginal communities has anything to do with 2 centuries of murder, rape, theft, abuse and treatment as sub-humans.
“This is a racist hate page that vilifies whites”

= My guilt complex and selfish outlook won’t allow me to see the bigger picture beyond myself. 

“You weren’t the first ones here, you came from Africa/Indonesia etc.”

= I feel threatened by the fact that you have tens of thousands of years old connection to this land that I can never fully understand.


I’ve been told that many times to take my politics away from Facebook and write a blog.  So here I am.

I wish to acknowledge the custodians of this land, the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation and their Elders past and present. I acknowledge and respect their continuing culture and the contribution they make to the life of this city and this region.

I’m a non-First Nation Person of British heritage.  I’m a Radical Evironmentalist, Feminist and wish to show solidarity with FNP in all my actions. I’m also polyamarous and currently live with my partner and two hellcats, Hades and Medusa.
If you don’t know my views yet, you will pick them up pretty quickly.

But I’ll finish my first blog entry with this.

Life is really beautiful, and we are all really, really fucked.